'Reach for the stars,' they say. But which one? All of them??
For motivation, I've been reading a couple of books that have been collecting dust on my shelves. I never seem to get more than halfway through any of them, but that first half has some gold in there (if it didn't, I'd never bother talking/writing about it).
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With so many options available (and growing by the day), how can we really know what we want and what direction is the "right" path? Plenty of options sound good, yet most of us don't seem to have one true calling. So what then?
Well, maybe the problem is determining what you want. That's a good place to start, right? You can read all the how-to books and websites in the world, but without knowing what you want to do it's all just useless information. What could be doesn't matter when you can't figure out where you want to go.
I Could Do Anything, If I Only Knew What It Was
This is a book title. Seriously, it is. Written by Barbara Sher, a therapist and career counselor, this book is designed to help break through the mental barriers preventing you from knowing what you want out of life (and your career). I personally love Barbara Sher. She gets people like me.
Learn about how to get lucky, raising your esteem and trusting in yourself so you can keep trying. And then dig into chapter three, when she introduces the strategies to find what is stopping you from knowing-and pursuing- what you truly want.
The rest of the book (until the brief epilogue) is an in-depth look at ten of the most common resistances you may be up against. Eventually, you'll probably want to read through all of them, but at first go with your gut and pick the few you can identify with off the top of your head. Each resistance is explained in detail (know thy enemy!) and given an exercise or two to help you overcome that blockage.
Don't get discouraged if the first exercise doesn't liberate you completely, though. Most people have more than one wall to break, and sometimes there's walls that take multiple tried to knock down. Her methods are easy to understand and implement, though, as well as being effective. So stick with it, or get yourself a personal career coach or something of the sort to help motivate you through those hurdles.
You Said "A Couple" Of Books...
I sure did. For those of us that break through the walls and find there's still too many to choose from, Barbara Sher has crafted another book. This one is cleverly titled, Refuse To Choose. Within these pages, she details a type of person called scanners, who essentially choose the infinite possibilities of life over having "one true vocation." It's not exactly a choice, per se, but more of a personality type you have. It's just in a scanner's nature to retain that child-like curiosity for, well, everything.
Barbara Sher's books are easy to read and understand, and help shed some light on issues that many misunderstand or even outright argue against. These two I've found to be extremely helpful and inspiring in discovering and dealing with my many life goals. I hope you can find something in them as well.
See you tomorrow at 9a!
As I begin this anew, I know only one thing: that I know nothing. Learn with me, and together we will figure this out.
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