After 14 years of failure (12 online, 2 prior with network marketing schemes), you'd think I'd be itching for success. To a certain extent, I am- in my mind where everything is a Utopia of health, wealth, adventure and satisfying relationships. But I know there's a dark side to that picture, and I'm not ashamed to admit that side terrifies me. (Image source Tama66 at Pixabay)
Imagining the future I want always comes out smelling like roses and feeling like that warm, fuzzy feeling of young love in springtime. I want it as much as the next person, and I've been trying to work toward it for nearly half my life now. So why is it so scary?
Too Much, Too Fast, Too Soon
You're never quite prepared for what might happen. Forbes posted an interview with Susan Baroncini-Moe addressing the preparedness aspect of fast success. Deliver on your promises, or over-deliver if you can, and never stop learning is the advice she poses. Reading through the article, though, there's more to help than she seemed to give: periodically research what others are saying about you or your company, and don't hinge your worth or value on any individual project's success. Wise words, though putting into practice may be difficult.
The Globe And Mail wrote about another point of view that resonates more strongly with me. It looks more at the social implications, how people will change around you in regard to your success. The desire to make a name for one's self is often largely based on friends and family being proud and supportive; yet I have a feeling that's rarely the outcome in reality. Certainly my family and friends aren't all going to fit into that fantasy ideal, either.
Braving The Risks
If you have a wide range of friends you interact with regularly, this may be even more difficult to overcome. At 35, I have whittled down those I contact outside my home to a minimum; I'm not even successful yet, but judging by how toxic people are when you have nothing sounds like a good gauge. All the "experts" suggest finding mentors, but that would assume you have enough success to afford one. So weeding people out of your life really only leaves you with the ones that like you for you (and less likely to turn into crazy people or critics later on)- but can't help much beyond that.
An article by Entrepreneur talks about failing quickly to succeed earlier. Sure, this seems like going against the grain, but I can't help but wonder if there's a seed of wisdom in that. They advise starting with the minimum effort, the minimum product you can release, and making small changes over time. Releasing the incremental adjustments to a select group of followers (beta testers, for example), helps to build the larger release for the general public. This gives you the chance to grow in small stages, but quickly, and still get feedback along the way.
I'm not sure how to implement that strategy into my situation, but it seems like a good idea to figure out. Maybe you're ok living with that fear, settling for less than your dream, but I'm not. While I know the reality won't look or feel the same as the fantasy, I'd rather experience that difference and know than allow the fear of success to keep smacking me down.
What are your thoughts about this? Comments are always welcome.
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As I begin this anew, I know only one thing: that I know nothing. Learn with me, and together we will figure this out.
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